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My friend Marjory


This week has been a tough week. When lockdown first started, in 2020, as many people did, my wife and daughter volunteered in a local community support scheme. This one was to provide support to vulnerable people through things like doing their shopping or collecting prescriptiona. My wife was paired with a lady called Marjory. Marjory was 98 years old, lived on her own in a second floor flat - a nice flat - near us and my wife ended up going in most days of the week over the Covid period. Covid ended and Marjory had become part of my wifes life, and part of my life. Id be sent to Sainsburys on a Thursday night for her weekly shop. I used to know better what she needed each week than we would need. Elderflower bubbly was a firm favourite; tins of rice pudding; 

 

marjory became our friend. In March 2022, she celebrated her 100th birthday - tipsy on a glass of Prosecco - and in March this year , my wife organised a birthday party for her and 20people came to her flat for cake and tea and a glass of sherry! 

she had the occasional fall and spent a few nights in hospital over the time. We went on her lifeline emergency call list as her family life a long way away. I guess we have become like family. On Wednesday night , Thursday morning , a phone call came through at 1 am to say shed fallen. Our house is about 200 yards from her flat so i went down to see what had happened. 

shed been trying to turn her tv off at the wall to go to bed, and fell at 11. She hadnt triggered the lifeline as she was bent down . So shed spent two hours trying to get up and failing, but at 1 am had somehow got into a chair and pushed the button. I came around and she was in lots of pain, very lucid but hurt. I called the ambulance and they took her to hospital and I got back home and to bed at 4. My wife had stayed behind as she is an exam officer and needed to be in work at 8; I do a boring job as a management consultant and would be less missed! 

we were told shed dislocated her hip in the fall. serious in a lady of 101 years old. They couldnt put it back in as it would cause trauma and needed a general anaesthetic- her Heart was too fast and they needed to wait. Overnight last night she had two heart attacks but survived. her son and his wife had come up overnight and told us that the doctors cant give her the GA due to her heart so they cant put her hip back in. So effectively , now, there is nothing they can do. It will be palliative care now and Marjory will slip away sometime soon. 

from covid we got a precious thing into our lives - we got to meet a lady who is now 101 and became our friend. We always knew it wouldnt be long we would know her- at 101 it wouldnt be, would it? But she lit up our lives for a few years and for that we are proud and truly privileged. 

she may surprise us and pull through , but we dont expect it. And for a few days we will be very sad and also spend sometime making sure she is comfortable , and spending time with her son and his wife (they are 70!) celebrating her life. 



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Ah, Jon, that's sad to hear. But how wonderful that you and your wife have been able to help her so much. I'm sure Marjory and her family are very grateful for all you've done.

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Jan wrote:

Ah, Jon, that's sad to hear. But how wonderful that you and your wife have been able to help her so much. I'm sure Marjory and her family are very grateful for all you've done.


 Oh, we know she and they do. In part, my note is celebrating an amazing life. She is a Scottish lady from Lochgoilhead , her father was the gamekeeper on the estate ! The stories she has told us. She came down to England when she was around 30 years old. 70 years in Yorkshire. And she has the broadest , highland accent to this day. we used to take our dog around to see her and she was so excited (Marjory and Luna our dog!) sadly we lose Luna in June and Marjory organised for us to have a photo framed of Luna through her son. 



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Sorry to hear this news about your friend, Jon, but yes, there's much to be grateful for and to celebrate here. Thank you for sharing this.



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Tanaqui wrote:

Sorry to hear this news about your friend, Jon, but yes, there's much to be grateful for and to celebrate here. Thank you for sharing this.


 Thank you Tanaqui- sharing is therapeutic , dont you think? And yes, lots to celebrate ! 



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There are many elderly/old people who would be SO glad to have you, and your wife, in their life, Jon. You've done a lovely thing. I hope Marjory's final days, whether in the short term or - hopefully - in the slightly longer term - are happy and pain-free.

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Coup Droit wrote:

There are many elderly/old people who would be SO glad to have you, and your wife, in their life, Jon. You've done a lovely thing. I hope Marjory's final days, whether in the short term or - hopefully - in the slightly longer term - are happy and pain-free.


 Thank you CD- Ive just got home from a day in London working and a restorative glass of red is needed; my wife has spent some time at the hospital today and says she needs one! 



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All I can say Jon, is that if I ever hit that ripe old age, I hope I have people like yourself and your family who are in my life, as you all are in hers.

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Bob in Spain wrote:

All I can say Jon, is that if I ever hit that ripe old age, I hope I have people like yourself and your family who are in my life, as you all are in hers.


 Thank you Bob- I think if you met Marjory youd do the same for sure. She used to scoff at Captain Tom, saying she could do that and I get up and down the stairs to my flat as well! 



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So sad Jon but a wonderful age and it sounds a wonderful character with wonderful friends. God bless you.

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How can anyone live to 101? She is so informed about the world as well. To be honest she watches the world in two main ways -through her TV, which is on all day, her companion in life; and through her window, as she watches down to the street. I go to a Sainsbury's local by her flat, to get milk or stuff, most days, and Marjory is ALWAYS sat in her window watching as the world moves around her. I wave, she waves ...

Imagine the changes in 101 years. 1922! It is crazy and yet you ask her and she feels the same today as she felt all those years back. Amazing

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Thinking of you and Marjorie X

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Thinking of you and Marjorie X


 Thanks Julia - well, the Doctors decided to do the operation today to put Marjory's hip back in, even though her heart remains enlarged - they couldnt wait longer they felt, but warned the family of the high likelihood of it not working out well. But Marjory is a tough old Scottish woman, and it went well and she seems to have come through the operation in good shape!! Amazing. The Doctors have warned it will be a few days of touch and go, but it went better than expected. 

So that is some good news! 



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Thinking of you and Marjorie X


 Thanks Julia - well, the Doctors decided to do the operation today to put Marjory's hip back in, even though her heart remains enlarged - they couldnt wait longer they felt, but warned the family of the high likelihood of it not working out well. But Marjory is a tough old Scottish woman, and it went well and she seems to have come through the operation in good shape!! Amazing. The Doctors have warned it will be a few days of touch and go, but it went better than expected. 

So that is some good news! 


 Oh, that is good news! Sending good wishes for the next few days.



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Thinking of you and Marjorie X


 Thanks Julia - well, the Doctors decided to do the operation today to put Marjory's hip back in, even though her heart remains enlarged - they couldnt wait longer they felt, but warned the family of the high likelihood of it not working out well. But Marjory is a tough old Scottish woman, and it went well and she seems to have come through the operation in good shape!! Amazing. The Doctors have warned it will be a few days of touch and go, but it went better than expected. 

So that is some good news! 


 Thats brilliant news Jon. Credit to both Marjory and the wonderful NHS.  Wishing her a full recovery.



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