I wanted to let my friends/members here know that I have entered my son into his first tennis tournament. He is playing in the Bozeman City Tournament and entered into both the singles and the doubles at the 12 & under level (I will place links to both draws at the bottom of this). My son Marcus is only seven so I am torn as to if I should have done this.
I wanted to report this for a couple of reasons, first to share with you his progress and then to make a record for him to look back on of my feelings, impressions etc. I wanted to share his development with you as you were so supportive when I posted videos of him playing etc.
Just some background first, Marcus started hitting a tennis ball when he was three. During the Summer of 2005, when he was five, I took him to a tennis Summer Camp where Marcus had group lessons a couple of times a week. I was encouraged to maintain his tennis lessons, but shortly after the Summer of 2005 we moved to Montana.
Due to the long Montana winter, Marcus did not play tennis for about 10 months after the move. When he did start group lessons here he quickly picked up where he left off in California. Recently he won a team tennis tournament designed for kids thinking about playing tennis tournaments even though he was the youngest of the 12 participants. In team tennis you play singles and are assigned different partners and play doubles too. After winning team tennis, by one point, I was encouraged by the coaches to enroll him in a USTA Tournament. The Bozeman City Tournament was close and so we decided to ask him if he wanted to enter it. His reply was "yes" without any hesitation.
Since then I have been concerned about allowing him to do this. I have no dreams of him doing any more than enjoying tennis, meeting new friends and working to get better. I worry about what will happen if he loses 6-0, 6-0 in the first round. I wonder if he will want to still play the game. He has excelled at soccer and baseball and I think these are easier sports between the ears as you have team mates etc. I just dont want him to be beaten easily and for it to really hurt him. I think I am somewhat over protective, but the difference in size and strength between a 12 year old and my son who is short for his seven years really concerns me.
At the same time, I want him to experience defeat. That sounds cruel, but in five season of soccer both in California and Montana, Marcus team has only lost one match. I dont know what defeat will do to Marcus. Maybe it will make him stronger, lead him to try harder. Hopefully defeat will instead of being a negative experience be something that propels him to work harder to beat the person who beat him at a later date. I really dont have any idea, although I think that I will see tears.
After looking at the draw, I am dreading seeing those tears tomorrow. At first, only 11 players entered into the singles tournament at 12 & under. Marcus was lucky enough to be given a bye with the four seeds, but a late comer was allowed to enter after the draw. Instead of assigning this late comer to play Marcus the tournament director thought it would be fairer to draw a name from the five players who received a first round bye (I support this decision). The result was that the fourth seed was drawn to play the later comer with the winner due to meet Marcus in the quarters. At first I thought "wow my son is in the quarters" but now I wish my son could play the easier match instead of playing the fourth seed who has already won a match or the kid who feels great because he just beaten the fourth seed. Either way, Marcus will play the winner at noon tomorrow.
Marcus could not find a doubles partner in town and so we asked the tournament director to find a partner for him. Marcus has been paired with a 12 year old who is also the singles #2 seed. At first I was excited as I thought they could progress into the next round which is the final (only four teams entered in the doubles). I have since found out that Marcus and his partner are playing an established doubles team, but if they do lose at least Marcus will have a seasoned partner to share the disappointment with. Marcus doubles match is at 6:30pm. In both the singles and doubles there is a consolation match against another first round loser, so Marcus should have at least four matches in the next couple of days.
Well, I will close now, and update you on his progress tomorrow evening. For me the winning and losing is not as nearly as important as the lessons he will learn and the memories he will foster from this experience. I want tennis to be something fun for him, something to enjoy and to play with his friends. I still wonder if I should have entered him at such a young age.
Feel free to ask any questions that I have not covered here. Here are the draw sheets, I am told that the results are added through-out the day which is better than that which happens at many a pro event.
Best of Luck to Marcus! Remember Andy Murray at Wimbledon 05: go into each game knowing that the other guy is hot favourite, that you're there to learn, but knowing that you've still got a chance and playing your heart out to take it.
First target: to take a game off him Once that's achieved: to take a break Once that's achieved to make a tie-break .........and so on
Doug, you have to enter him into this kinda environment at some stage, now i am older i personally wish i did a lot more compteitve sports when i was younger.
if you can watch his match do so so that even if he loses you can talk to him about all the postives in his game.
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Have fun Marcus - we'll keep our fingers crossed for you. Too much competition amongst kids has been removed from the UK so I think it's a good idea for your son to get involved early and learn many lessons. Sounds like he'll get great support from you whatever the outcome. Good Luck.
That's really interesting to read Doug. Looking forward to hearing how things go. Good luck to you and Marcus!
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Yes Count. I like the idea too, each entered player will have at least two matches in each of the events they entered. Marcus is sure to play two singles and two doubles matches.
We are getting ready to leave. My son has had very little to eat this morning, but I have heard that the fouth seed is like a garage door, he seems to get everything back but has very little on it apart from his forehand. He does not have a big serve at all for an eleven year old, his back hand is steady but no real power. At least Marcus will not get blown off the court.
Just a quick update. Marcus won his singles match 7-5, 6-4 in two hours & ten minutes. The match was played in temps in the 90s. It is 96 now at 3:30pm. Afterwards we went for ice cream. I'll give a full report and the doubles later, obviously I am over the moon and as Marcus was down 3-0 & 5-3 in the first and yet pulled it out. He also missed a match point at 5-2 in the second so the wheels nearly came off.
Woohoo, that's awesome. Seems like he has some real talent. Give him mine and I'm sure all of our best wishes and tell him he deserves his ice cream 100%!
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First of all, thank you for all the positive posts. I actually read them to Marcus after he got up this morning. I really enjoyed Robs advice which we talked about in the car on the way to his match. It must have worked as Marcus won his singles match 7-5, 6-4 in two hours & ten minutes. I am over the moon. The match was played in temps in the 90s and both players were tired. I felt for Marcus opponent as he played his first round match at 9am and that match was close too.
Before the match I was told that the other player was like a garage door, everything came back, but he lacked power apart from a little power on the forehand side. The scouting report was correct, everything came back. Most points were ended with a Marcus winner or Marcus error. Happily Marcus hit a ton of winners.
The match started badly for Marcus, he was broken to love and shortly found himself 3-0 down. He fought back to 3-3 only to find himself 5-3 down. He then went on a run of winning four straight games even hitting an ace (the ball bounced twice although I think Marcus hit a soft serve knowing that his opponent was standing too far back). In the second set Marcus won three straight games at 2-2 for a 5-2 lead. He then seemed to run out of steam. One game had six deuces and I was dying. Eventually Marcus had a match point at 5-2 only to lose the game. For a while I really thought the wheels were coming off and Marcus was running out of steam. I feared for the possible third set (which I found out would be a ten point tie breaker), but after reaching deuce while serving for the match at 5-4 Marcus hit a serve out wide and followed it with a cross court winner and on his second point his opponents backhand hit the net after a brief rally. I was over the moon.
Afterwards we went for ice cream, but on the way we had to jump over a little creek like we have many times after practice or playing, Marcus never made it and ended up with both feet wet in the creek. He really was out of steam even though I kept reminding him to drink. He will now rest up to be ready for the doubles.
Well, so much for the doubles. Marcus, and his partner Van, lost 6-2, 7-6. It was strange as on the way to the match Marcus and I even talked about the trophy, pride goes before a fall. As Van had destroyed a good player in the singles quarters and Marcus played well too I thought they would win. They were playing a team that had played together before (both are 12 and one has a parent who is a coach), but only one of them had entered singles and he had lost in the quarters. I didnt know how they would do this morning, but after watching the singles I thought Marcus & Van would win. What I had overlooked was the value of having a doubles partner who you are used to.
There were times when Marcus and Van left the ball to each other, and times when Marcus seemed to be scared at the net just hoping that one of Vans hard shots would not hit him in the back of the head. The conditions were windy and it was still hot, but they were out-played by a good team in the first set. In the second set Marcus and Van found themselves serving for the set at 5-4, but Van was broken after a couple of missed volleys by Marcus and a double fault. They immediately broke back which gave me hope, but unfortunately Marcus could not hold his serve. At one point they were two points from sending the match into a third, but that was as close as it got.
The tie breaker was disappointing after they had been ahead in the set for so long. The other pair started with an ace and hit two amazing returns to gain a couple of mini breaks on Vans serve. After that it appeared that there would only be one winning team. The match lasted just under two hours.
I think Marcus looked tired after his middle of the day 2+ hour marathon, but I think the deciding factor was a team that played together well and beat Marcus and Van (even though I think Van will win the singles title). Afterwards I found out that there is no consolation match in the doubles so that is it! I feel bad as I think Marcus and Van were finding their chemistry in that second set and despite the age difference they really enjoy each others company.
In the morning Marcus will play Van in singles for a spot in the semis. I think there is every chance that Marcus will go down 6-0, 6-0. I think Marcus has accepted his fate as Van hits the ball so well and is fast on the court. I dont expect tears now though. I think this has been far too much of a positive experience for Marcus for him to feel bad about anything.
On a funny note. The lad that Van beat in the quarters of the singles has a father who is a USTA coach. According to Van, this lads father once coached a Mr. Andy Roddick back in the day. The boys name is James Williams and he has recently moved to Montana from Texas. I have little reason to doubt the story even though Andy was never in Texas. Maybe Ill talk to the father one day and let you know what I find out.
Onto Marcus singles semi final with hope......the draws have been up-dated.
good luck to marcus in the next round, hope he can win a couple of games early on and the who knows...!
one idea could be to play quite a few short balls - or at least give it a go. whilst kids can run all day from side-to-side, they sometimes take a bit of time to pick up on a ball thats just been hit gently over the net - much like marcus's ace in the last round! also when they do get to the ball they quite often do not compensate for it being closer to the other side, and whack it out! also keeps the player guessing when you do it a couple of times!
though am sure just general encouragement and aiming for one goal at a time would be just as beneficial!